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Transformed by hope | Jacksons Story with ODD ADHD SPD | helloHOPEThe more people we meet, the more I am convinced that hope is contagious. There really is something powerful about bringing hope and love to another person. Hope inspires hope. One of my favorite parts about Jackson’s story is that when he and his family had run out of hope, someone else stepped in and hoped for them with a love so powerful that it has changed the course of their family’s life. Here is their story: 

After years of infertility treatments and miscarriages, Jennifer and Tim adopted their son Jackson, who is now 10. Jackson was a joy from the start and truly was the perfect baby who ate well, slept well, and was happy.

Jennifer remembers the time she first noticed that something was different about Jackson:

“When we put him into preschool at age 4, he would act out and tear up other children’s toys. There was an underlying anger or annoyance with him that we couldn’t quite put our finger on. Convincing ourselves it must be the school setting and not our child, we started switching schools and living through the drama of being ‘invited not to return.’”

Over the next several years, Jackson continued to have explosive outbursts that resulted in phone calls to be sent home every few days. Sensory issues began to surface as well, and his parents grasped for ways to help him succeed in school. Various diagnoses were offered up as possible explanations until the diagnosis of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), non-specific mood disorder, sensory processing disorder (SPD), and oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) were given. Over the next several years, the norm for Jennifer and Tim was weekly conferences with school staff, along with extensive research and searching for answers. In Jennifer’s words, “Throughout this whole time, we went to every specialist anyone told us about in search of the answers. We threw everything against the wall to see what would stick. Desperation, depression, sadness. I feel like I lost my personality and zest for life.”

Their low point came last year in an Individualized Education Program (IEP) meeting with 17 people present, including a behavior specialist who knew which labels were correct and which were not. By the end of the meeting, the label that the school system was asking Jennifer and Tim to sign off on was not who they knew their son was. Jennifer recalled, “We walked out and said he’s not going back. We took him out of school mid-year to homeschool while trying to hold down full time jobs. We were all emotionally, psychologically and spiritually distraught. He thought he was stupid, a bad kid, and even evil. We thought we were awful people and not worthy to be parents.”

The Search for Help with ODD, ADHD, and SPD

Knowing they couldn’t keep up the pace of homeschooling for another year, Jennifer and Tim searched for a school that would fit with Jackson’s needs. Jennifer reflected, “I have always thought in my core that if I could just find the right place for him…if someone just understood how he was wired…if someone who could teach just loved him as much as I did…if the importance of the classroom was teaching and connection instead of paperwork—then there was a hope for his educational future.”

 

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Jennifer and Tim found that place in Jacob’s Ladder, a school that serves students with any kind of neurological disorder. After sitting down with Amy O’Dell, the school’s founder, they knew immediately that it was the place for their son and for them, too. Sending Jackson to Jacob’s Ladder gave Jennifer and Tim the gift of being able to truly exhale for the first time in 6 years.

The teachers and the staff there are uniquely equipped with both the science and methodology to address neurological disorders and genuine love for and belief in their students. Jackson is enrolled in The Hope School at Jacob’s Ladder and is an entirely different person than he was a year ago. Their program has uncovered his kind and sweet spirit and renewed his hope and the hope of his parents. Today, their family laughs together and is happily living life on the offense rather than defense. Because Jackson has learned to monitor himself more often, they freely accept social invitations without feeling the need to have a contingency plan. Jennifer added, “We see him on a daily basis, but our extended family cannot believe the transformation. Jacob’s Ladder has given us back our family, and we are grateful.”

Hope with ODD

If your child has been diagnosed with ODD or another brain or mood-related disorder, Jennifer shares these words of hope from their journey:

“There are always going to be good days, and there are always going to be bad days. Embrace the good day for what it is. Everything goes in phases, and if you can just remember what the good feels like you can get through the bad. I try, I know it’s almost impossible, but I try to spend less time worrying. Worrying brings a whole negative energy that just self perpetuates and leaves a cloud of worry over your child. The thing to do is pray. I prayed so hard for so long and have had so many people praying for us. And pray for yourself, not just for your child. Pray to know what the right things to do are. Pray for the path, and pray for the people to help you. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Trust that God has a plan, and the plan is bigger than you and the plan is bigger than your child. If you just trust what God tells you, then you are on the path to do what you’re supposed to do.”

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I absolutely loved gleaning insight from Jennifer and hung on her every word. Their family’s story is such a tangible example that a diagnosis isn’t a sentence on how life will be. We are so thankful for their willingness to share their story of the joy that comes from a life transformed by hope.  

Looking for more resources?
As you may notice from the comments below, many families are facing a diagnosis or questions about ADHD, ODD, or SPD. The challenges are real, and the need for resources is great. If you’re in this boat, you can get our resource list simply by filling out the form below. Please note that we will not be responding to comments requesting local resources since this form provides the information we currently have. 
Don’t lose heart! You are not alone, and there is hope for you and your family.
Considering treatment options? Check out our interview with Amy O’Dell, founder of Jacob’s Ladder, where she talks about navigating through the tough treatment decisions many families face: ‘10 Things to Consider When Choosing Treatment Options for Your Child

 

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  • Nicole
    Reply

    I really wish you had resources in Utah.

    • Mary
      Reply

      They say my 5year old daughter has ODD .School isnt going well for her at all…I need help in columbus,ohio ! Please!!!

      • Mary Beth Thomas
        Reply

        Just e-mailed you, Mary!

        • Shannon
          Reply

          Do you have resources for Fairfax, VA? Our son meets all the qualifications for ODD.

          • Mary Beth Thomas

            Just e-mailed you!

        • Vonnetta Bradley
          Reply

          my daughter is 6 and has been diagnosed with ODD and ADHD are there resources in Indianapolis?..she is not doing well at all in school or home!

          • Mary Beth Thomas

            Hi Vonnetta, I just sent you an email!

          • Michelle

            Did you have any luck when you reached out ???

          • Mary Beth Thomas

            Hi Michelle, I’m sending you an e-mail now!

          • KYLA ALLAMAN

            I Donno if you have found anyplace but my son has adhd odd and mrmd and we went to anderson

      • Asia
        Reply

        Were you able to find a school in Columbus Ohio? We would love to get some info for our daughter who is 10.

        • Pam johnson
          Reply

          ASIA I HAVE A 16 YEAR OLD SON THAT HAS THE SAME ISSUE AS JACKSON. I LIVE IN GROVE CITY OHIO. HAVE YOU FOUND ANYTHING FOR YOUR DAUGTHER THAT IS WORKING?

      • Elsie lumas
        Reply

        Have you ever talked to Marburn Academy? My son attended and they made a big difference in his life.

    • Celestina Elkins
      Reply

      Any help for me in Ohio as well North West Region.

      • Mary Beth Thomas
        Reply

        Hi Celestina, I just sent you an e-mail!

    • Michelle
      Reply

      If you find anything in Utah in the Salt Lake valley, please let me know. My Adopted son is ODD with an array of diagnosis. Any help we can get would be amazing. Post adoptive services through DCFS have not been helpful at all.

      • Mary Beth Thomas
        Reply

        Michelle, I’m so sorry about the difficulty you are experiencing. Just sent you an e-mail~

    • Karen Cameron
      Reply

      I need a school for my 12 year old with ODD, we live in New York, any help is greatgully appreciated.

      • Mary Beth Thomas
        Reply

        Hi Karen, I just sent you an e-mail!

    • michelle
      Reply

      We need a school for my 12 year old with ODD, we live in New York, any help is greatgully appreciated.

      • Mary Beth Thomas
        Reply

        Just e-mailed you, Michelle!

  • Rian Faux
    Reply

    How about in indiana any resources? My son who is almost 13 is struggling as well as his parents. I am exhausted and mentally drained. I don’t know who to turn to or what to do.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Rian, sent you an email! 🙂

  • Amy
    Reply

    Are there any resources in Tennessee?

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Amy, Sending you an email! 🙂

      • Kathy Roy
        Reply

        Hi Mary, I also would like to know resources in Tennessee. Will you please let me know?

        • Mary Beth Thomas
          Reply

          Hi Kathy, I just sent you an e-mail!

  • Barbara
    Reply

    This was a fantastic article and a great story. I am smuggling with ODD type behaviors in my 6 year old and would love to hear if there are resources in the Houston Texas area. Thank You!

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Barbara, Sending you an email! 🙂

  • Monica
    Reply

    Colorado? Please help!

    • Andrew Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Monica, we’ll be sending you an email shortly!

  • Sadie
    Reply

    Are there any resources in Tennessee or Georgia?

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Just sent you an e-mail!

      • Mindy
        Reply

        Can you please send the resources for Georgia to me as well? My son is 14, adopted from Russia when he was 1, and diagnosed with ADD and ODD, and with the teenage years hitting too, we are really struggling to find answers. Our psychiatrist is great, and he is recommending residential treatment, but we can’t afford it, and of course we make too much money to qualify, but all our money goes to meds and psychiatrist appointments, plus my daughter is from Russia as well and has FAS so we see an educational therapist for her. Any help would be awesome. Thanks

        • Mary Beth Thomas
          Reply

          Just e-mailed you, Mindy!

        • Dawn
          Reply

          Hi Mindy, I seem to be in the same boat as you, I have a 12 year old son, adopted as well, and has ADHD and ODD. We are hopefully starting some kind of therapy soon. Chin up and we will all get through this with love and the power of prayer. I will pray for you and your family.

        • John
          Reply

          Seeking resources in Atlanta also.

  • Bobbie
    Reply

    My son has all of these diagnosis as well. My husband is a disabled Veteran (Purple Heart recipient) and I feel like I am out options for son. I wish I could turn back time as if this is all my fault.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Bobbie,

      My heart goes out to you–lifting you up in prayer now.

  • Kari
    Reply

    North Mississippi? Please help!!

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Just sent you an e-mail!

  • Mary
    Reply

    Phoenix, Az please

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Sending you an e-mail!

  • Lori Smitj
    Reply

    Are there any resources in Wenatchee WA

    • Andrew Thomas
      Reply

      Sending you an e-mail, Lori!

  • Tanya Fitzpatrick
    Reply

    Please help..my grandsons have ODD and ADHD.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Sent you an e-mail, Tanya!

  • Jessica E
    Reply

    help!,my son has ADHD and needs help,he is crying out to me for help and the meds he is on now aren’t working anymore. is there any resources near Detroit , Michigan?

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Email sent. 🙂

  • Jessica
    Reply

    my son has add, anxiety issues and possibly odd. are there any resources in spokane, Wa ? thank you!

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Just e-mailed you, Jessica!

  • Katherine
    Reply

    I live in Gainesville Fl and have a son with ODD,ADHD and sensory processing issues. He is in K.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Just e-mailed you, Katherine!

  • Conswello Chambliss
    Reply

    Hello, I am writing because my husband and I are at a loss on how to help our child. Are there any programs in Montgomery, Alabama that could offer us the help you provide?

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Just e-mailed you, Conswello!

  • Michelle
    Reply

    Drowning in KC MO. ODD ADHD, maybe DMDD. PANDAS. Suspect SPD. We want to enjoy being a family again

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Emailed you!

      • Liz
        Reply

        Can I get those same KC, MO resources please? Can you share my email with Mary Beth in case she’s found some additional resources? We are starting clinical evaluations for ODD, 504’s at school & the waiting game is miserable.

        • Mary Beth Thomas
          Reply

          Hi Liz, Just sent you an e-mail.

  • Lindsey
    Reply

    Help, Reading this story was like I was telling mine. I am in Maryland. I have a soon to be 9 year old and I feel like we all (son, me and father) are fighting a losing battle. Our son attends Public school and after asking 3 times verbaly and ince in writing, They are finaly going to help me with a school plan. Any resources you my have here in Maryland would truly be a blessing.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Just sent you an e-mail, Lindsey!

  • Christina
    Reply

    My 13 year old son has similar issues. It is very hard on him…and our family. It We have an appointment in January to see a Behavioral Pediatrician but would love to get some help before then…we live in the Bay Area in California. Any suggestions? Thank you…

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Christina, I just e-mailed you!

  • Millie
    Reply

    I am a child with ODD and i really need help with my mom and dad. Im in Florida. I really need some help please. I hat e seeing therapists it just gives me stress and anxiety please help!

    • Andrew Thomas
      Reply

      Millie: We’re sorry to hear about the anxiety. Perhaps this story or this resource is something you and your parents can discuss together.

  • Cj
    Reply

    I am looking for resources in GA for my 9 year old.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Just sent you an e-mail!

  • Brenda Newton
    Reply

    My son Joshua is eleven years old and has been diagnosed with odd and anxiety. It has been a nightmare to say the least. Every day is a struggle. I love him so much. No one understands. I am a newly wed. I thought my husband understood but recently he has been very upset with my son and seems to just “not like” him. My husband also has a three year old son who we learned on tues may be autistic. When we have both children my life is a nightmare. I know I shouldn’t say that but its the truth.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Sorry to hear about your struggle. Praying over your family now.

  • Cassie
    Reply

    Just received a diagnosis of ADHD and ODD in 7-year old son. Looking for resources in Kalamazoo, MI.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Just sent you an e-mail, Cassie!

  • Jodi
    Reply

    Any help in wisconsin?

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Just sent you an e-mail!

  • Tracy olson
    Reply

    My 7 year old son has odd and adhd and I am a single mom and I am having problems with him at home, at school he is perfect, any suggestions. I live in Wisconsin

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Just e-mailed you, Tracy!

  • Melissa olejniczak
    Reply

    Any resources is north Seattle area?

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Email sent. 🙂

  • Iris Mercado
    Reply

    Any resources in NYC? I’m a single mom with a seven year old who is displaying signs of ODD. Problems at school, home, etc. Please help

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Just e-mailed you, Iris!

  • Sarah
    Reply

    At a breaking point in Columbus, OH as my 14 year old’s defiance turned violent last night. Not sure where to turn for help but after several schools, and the situation last night, I fear we may need more drastic measures. Any suggestions on local resources?

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Just e-mailed you, Sarah.

  • Wendy L
    Reply

    Any resources in Florida please help me, my son is going to be 14

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Just sent you an email, Wendy!

  • Angie
    Reply

    I have a precious 8 yr old little boy that I adopted when he was 10 months old. since he was 4 there have been extensive issues and he has violent outburst. He has been diag with adhd, odd, ptsd, disruptive mood disorder. I am a single mom and he is currently in residential care. I feel like I hit a brick wall every time I try to find him help. The public school doesn’t want him. I am in a rural part of Ohio and I am trying to find resources for him that will truely benefit him. He is smart and loving but he has a side that is so impulsive that he can’t control. My heart breaks for him. his childhood is being lost and I am trying to save his future. Do you know of any resources in central Ohio or WV? I have reached out to advocates and my phone calls don’t get returned. I have tried to find funding but when I did a facility ate it up and then couldn’t help anymore unless I had 80,000 a yr or signed him over to the county which I wasn’t willing to do.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Just emailed you, Angie!

  • Ed
    Reply

    Do you know of any resources in Elmira NY? We adopted a girl with SPD and OCD.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Ed, Just sent you an e-mail! 🙂

  • Diana
    Reply

    My son is 13, and was diagnosed with ADHD, and ODD when he was 8. He has had tremendous ups and downs since. Since he started 8th grade, we have had nothing but problems both in school and at home. He constantly gets in trouble for doing the same things. Despite the punishments we set, he seems unwilling to follow the rules. He also lies all the time. I am at a loss at this point. He just won’t listen and his offenses are becoming more serious in nature. I live in NJ. Do you have any resources or suggestions. We don’t know where else to turn.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      My heart goes out to you, Diana. I sent you an e-mail!

  • jake v
    Reply

    any resorses in sd

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Jake, Your e-mail bounced back!

  • lori
    Reply

    looking for help in california.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Just emailed you, Lori!

  • Pattie Dystant
    Reply

    Help in Michigan (Southfield). My daughter is 15 and ADHD and I strongly feel she has ODD. I feel beat down.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      So sorry, Pattie. Sent you an e-mail!

  • lucia
    Reply

    is there any resources in staten island, ny…my song is going through this and he is five.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Just e-mailed you, Lucia!

  • ramona
    Reply

    please I am desperate, I live in Illinois and I have a 15 year old.. I don’t know where to go for help.. he has odd

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Ramona, I am so sorry–just e-mailed you!

  • Dave
    Reply

    Our 7 year old son was just diagnosed with ODD and ADHD. Picking him up from school each day brings the worry and stress of wondering if the principle or teachers will be waiting for us to go over the challenges of the day. His social connections to classmates are suffering as well as with his teachers and I worry that at any day they will ask us to leave. I feel the sideways glances from parents of other kids who just know my son as the mean kid. He can be so fun and sweet and intelligent, but he just can handle his anger when he feels wrongs by other people. Any help or encouragement here would go a long way. I feel like I am drowning as a father.

    Heartbroken but hopeful in SE Virginia.

    • Andrew Thomas
      Reply

      Dave: I’ll send you an email. Keep holding onto hope!

  • Mindy
    Reply

    Hello from Chicago! Single Mom with a 13 year old son with ADHD/ODD, need help, spiritually, emotionally and physically drained.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Mindy, I’m so very sorry! Sending you an email with some encouragement now~

  • Hopeless Mom in NJ
    Reply

    How can you have hope when you’re living in constant dread?! Dread that my 10-yr old has burned so many bridges socially that other kids don’t want him around. Dread every time I sign him up for an activity? Dread that his outbursts are going to ruin yet ANOTHER holiday!? Dread that he is going to have no decent kids to play with, and be left to hang out with the wrong crowd?! Dread that it’s all my fault? Dread that there is no hope for his future other than embarrassment and isolation? Dread that he won’t know how to laugh or enjoy anything because of the constant arguing and bickering? Dread that I feel tremendously hopeLESS!

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Our hearts go out to you. You are not alone, and so many other parents are walking this path with you–sending you an e-mail now.

  • Susan Curry
    Reply

    My son and grandson moved in with us when the baby was three. He is now 6. My grandson has been diagnosed with ODD and ADHD but what’s worse is his 34 yr old father who is now having to raise him also has ADHD and I’m almost sure ODD but they didn’t have those kind of diagnosis back then. So you can ONLY imagine the total chaos at my house. The baby screams, Dad screams louder, you get the gist of it. I try to follow some of the advice I read online and his father doesn’t follow through with anything….I have co-guardianship with his father because he can’t handle things but I’m ready to move out and take my grandson with me…HELP

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Just sent you an e-mail, Susan!

  • Exhausted mom
    Reply

    Please help me. My child has ADHD, mood disorder and is failing the fourth grade. We currently live in Virginia and have tried every doctor known to man. I am mentally exhausted.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      I am so sorry!! Just sent you an e-mail with a bit of encouragement!

  • Renetta Haggard
    Reply

    Any resources in Alaska? My son has an IEP for behavior. He is always in his SPED class the majority of the school day and needs to ride the Special Bus. He always wants to be in the regular classroom and ride the regular bus but due to his behavior his regular classroom participation is shortly lived. As a parent I struggle with the guilt of “Am I raising him correctly?” “Where did I go wrong?” “What do I need to do to help him and me?”

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      My heart breaks for you and the struggles you and your son are facing. Just sent you an e-mail with some encouragement.

  • Deborah A Green
    Reply

    Hi,

    I am concerned about my 5 year old grandson, ? ODD, quite possibly a mood disorder- He lives in Rhode Island- any trusted professionals you could refer us to would be appreciated.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Deborah, I just sent you an e-mail!

  • Laura Prado
    Reply

    Reading this article and the comments, I feel like I’m reading my own story. It breaks my heart because I feel no one understands what I am feeling and how lost I feel, but on here it’s different. I feel I’m a bad parent and doing everything wrong. I’m a positive person and everyday I think its going to be better and it’s not. My son is 10 and he just wants to fit in, but people get frustrated with him and think he’s doing things on purpose, call him lazy and a negative influence. If you could please send me information of resources you have in South Texas. Thanking you in advance.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Laura, I just sent you an e-mail!! You are not alone, your story matters, and your son’s diagnosis isn’t everything–it doesn’t define who he is! Be encouraged!!

  • Anastasia
    Reply

    Are you aware of any resources in Central, PA area? We are having so much difficulty, this sounds word for word with what we are dealing with. Our son is only 6. 🙁

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Anastasia, I just sent you an e-mail! Hang in there!

  • Lori
    Reply

    I am crossing my fingers that there is a school near us in central MD. Where can I find a list of resources. My 12 year old daughter has ADHD and ODD. The schools here are so strict and the teachers so judgemental. She already has a reputation for being disrespectful and rude! I get calls weekly about her behavior. We are in therapy but they are so booked we can only see them twice a month. SO frustrated!

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Lori, I’m so sorry–I know how frustrating that can be!! Just sent you an e-mail. Hang in there!!

  • Becca
    Reply

    My son is recently diagnosed and in process of trying to sort through all the overwhelming optoins, directions, opinions etc. looking for help in Foxboro, MA

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Becca, Just sent you an email and will be praying for wisdom to discern the best path!

  • Jo
    Reply

    Hi,

    We are desperate as well! My husband oand I are full time workers with two daughters, 6 and 8. Our 6yr old has these symptoms and we got the site down with her current school. They in so many ways were asking ” please take her away…” We have no family and resources and don’t know where to begin. Do you have resources in the Mesa Arizona area???? Blessings you all!

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Jo, Praying for your family now. Just sent you an e-mail!

  • Carol Rider
    Reply

    Please help me. I am at my wit’s end trying to get help for an adult daughter suffering from SPD.
    We live in Baltimore? Is there anything close by? We are even ready to travel further if necessary.
    We we all sit around crying most of the day.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Carol, I just sent you an e-mail! You are not alone!

  • Shera Carlascio
    Reply

    Are there any resources is the Missoula, Montana area?
    Thank you

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Shera, I just responded via e-mail!

  • Carolyn
    Reply

    Hi my grandson is 7 years old and he has ODD and is getting out of control. Is there any resources in Greenville, NC?

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Carolyn, I just sent you an e-mail!

  • Edyta
    Reply

    My son is 11 years old and has ADHD. Every day is a struggle. We live in Roanoke, VA. Are there any resources around here? Please help

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Edyta, I just sent you an e-mail!

  • Kristin
    Reply

    Hi Mary Beth. Thanks for sharing your story. It mirrors our experience with our 11 year old son and reminds us we’re not alone although we feel so desperately alone. So many of these stories are like ours.

    ADHD, anxiety. SPD and ODD diagnoses, shunned socially, burning out teachers and thinning school administrators’ patience. Do you recommend a program or school in the Twin Cities, Minnesota area? There’s a great school for kids with learning disabilities here but behavior issues are a deal breaker for them.

    He needs a place that’s not a traditional classroom setting, which he refers to as a prison for his body that needs to move a lot.

    Any ideas are not only welcome but would be life changing. Thank you!!

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Kristin, I sent you an e-mail this afternoon!

  • M. Hughes
    Reply

    Hello, My grandson has ADHD & ODD. We live in Georgia

  • Amber
    Reply

    My Grandson’s therapy group apparently doesn’t “subscribe” to the ODD diagnosis-the symptoms are spot on so I am certain that’s what it is. Are there any resources in Reno/Sparks, NV for a 6 year old? Thank you.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      I just sent you an e-mail!

  • nicole dunkin
    Reply

    hi my name is nicole my 6 year old son suffers from adhd, odd, mmd, nos and social anxiety hes also made an attempt on his life. im so lost and need more help and resources for Arkansas that his therapist has not covered with me yet. Please help im so lost and confused

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Nicole, My heart breaks for all you are walking through. I just sent an email to you!

  • Jennifer McGarrity
    Reply

    It breaks my heart when I read these stories because I can relate to all the same struggles and feelings. Our son is diagnosed with ADHD and anxiety disorder and is almost 9 years old. It’s been a fight for happiness since he was 2 years old. Now that he is on meds, he can focus somewhat better at school and makes good grades. However, focus isn’t consistent, we still get a number of calls/emails from teachers and worst of all, he doesn’t have the social skills the “normal” kids do. As a result, he has a hard time keeping friends, making good decisions and not acting out. He is also very defiant… although, this has improved slightly with some maturity. Trying not to worry about it is tough. I know that he has a higher risk of falling into the wrong crowd and being a follower when I know he has the brains to be a leader. My family is at a loss. Rochester, NY

  • Wanda
    Reply

    Hello. My 13 year old daughter has been displaying ODD behavior for a long time. Can you give me some resources in the Richmond, VA area? I sincerely appreciate your comments about prayer. God bless you.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Wanda, We are so glad that you have found encouragement here. Just emailed you, too!

  • Jennifer
    Reply

    I am in Fresno Ca. and my story with my grandson is very similar. I need resources please, if anyone knows of anything in Fresno Ca. please email me at fishy1974@gmail.com.

    Thank you

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Sent you an e-mail, Jennifer!

  • Dawn
    Reply

    Help in Lompoc, California

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Just sent you an e-mail, Dawn!

  • Samantha McDonald
    Reply

    Do you have any resources in Colorado please?

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Samantha, Just sent you an e-mail!

  • Denise
    Reply

    Any recommendations for schools or centers in the Covington Kentucky area that help with ODD?

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Denise, I just e-mailed you!

  • Cindy
    Reply

    Please send me an email with resources in California. I am going through the hardest time with my son and losing hope. We feel that we are not fit to take care of our 11 year old anymore due to his outbursts. Thank you!

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Cindy, The e-mail bounced back! Feel free to re-submit a comment or contact us through the “Contact Us” page!

  • Ben
    Reply

    Any resources in the Boise, ID area?

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Ben, Just sent you an e-mail!

  • Julie
    Reply

    Looking for help in Portland, Oregon. My son is now 10. He’s had symptoms of ODD and anxiety since preschool. He was officially diagnosed at age 7. We have done behavior modification and counseling with some success, but now that he is going into puberty, we feel lost again. Help!

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Julie, You are not alone! Just sent you an e-mail.

  • Andrew and Helene Lowney
    Reply

    Not sure if our 15 year old daughter has ODD but it sounds like she might. She blames everything on everyone else can’t get out of bed to take ADHD medicine and can’t push herself to do her online high school work. She is saved no doubt but fights with my exhausted wife who has MS all the time. Even the counselors can’t get her going. She has Type 1 Diabetes so we’re afraid to put her in school. Are there any resources in Hannibal Mo?

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Sent you an e-mail!

  • Joanne
    Reply

    My son is in 3rd grade and has ADHD and ODD. It is progressivlly getting worse as time goes on. Are there any resources you can direct me to in NY, specifically long Island.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Joanne, I just sent you an e-mail!

  • Molly
    Reply

    Please reach out to me for any resources in CO.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Molly, Just sent you an e-mail!

  • Danielle
    Reply

    Totally at a loss. Any help for Northern FL would b great!

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Just e-mailed you!

  • Karen Phillips
    Reply

    I have a grandson that was placed with me when he was 4. He is now 8 and refuses to go to school. Many days he won’t even get dressed! He has been hospitalized once for ADHD, ASD, Bipolar and ODD. Now he is refusing to take his meds, although I didn’t see great improvement except for one week. I cab’t take much more of this. What resources are available in Oklahoma? Appreciate any help you can provice

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Karen, My heart goes out to you! I just sent you an e-mail with some encouragement. Praying for you now!

  • Mya
    Reply

    My sibling deals with ADHD he is always distracted and is bullied

  • Tiffany
    Reply

    Is there any assistance near Augusta, Ga?

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      I just e-mailed you, Tiffany!

  • Steph
    Reply

    My son has just been diagnosed. He has been expelled from school and started a new school last week, of which he was kicked out of after his second day. I thought this was due to the recent separation with his father, but looking now, I see that it may not be. I have him in counseling, but it is moving to slow for me. I need help. Las Vegas, Nevada. Single mother, with no financial resources, but has health insurance for him. Please help!

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Emailing you now, Steph.

  • Laycee
    Reply

    My son just turned 14 and was recently diagnosed with ODD. This school year has been a struggle, I receive emails and calls home at least twice a week. He started seeing a counselor, but his bad grades and behavior continue. I am so worried…. He starts high school in the fall and if he continues on the path that he is on now, I fear that he will flunk out and get caught up with the wrong crowd. We live in Northern California any recommendations would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance!!!!

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Laycee, I just replied via email! 🙂

  • Julie
    Reply

    Please recommend any resources in West Michigan (Grand Rapids area) for a 14 year old girl. ADHD and ODD.

    Thank you.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Julie, I sent you an e-mail!

  • Laura
    Reply

    My daughter is 6 and has ODD we are having trouble finding a new school for her to attend in Dunnellon, FL. Any suggestions or resources would be greatly appreciated.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Laura, Emailed you just a moment ago!

  • Mark
    Reply

    We’ve been trying to get our son evaluated since he was 12 yrs old and finally managed to accomplish that and establish the fact he was ADHS and ODD he is now 16yrs old and has been isolated in ISS 37 days this past year. The Therapyist we have finally been able to obtain says the ISS methodology will just make the ADHS, ODD worse AND MORE DANGEROUS. How do we get some enlightened help support in Utah?

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Mark, I sent you an e-mail!

  • Susan Curry
    Reply

    Mary Beth, my son and grandson moved in with us when the grandson was 1 1/2. The grandson was diagnosed with both ADHD and ODD. ADHD is very prevalent in our family as his father was diagnosed when he was about the same age. Little did we know though, that he probably had ODD but because they didn’t have those types of diagnosis’s back then. The problem we have is putting the two of them in the same room, its’ volatile. His father has the same explosive behavior that the grandson has. Its’ like mixing gasoline with fire! We finally had to relent and give him medication because otherwise it would be detrimental to him and me. When he’s on medication and then not, he’s like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. People on the outside just don’t understand. They take one look at him and he melts their heart. We just switched to a longer acting medication that wouldn’t affect his appetite as bad but its’ been a week and I don’t see it calming the behaviors as well. Any guidance would help within the Mass. area.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Email sent!

  • Roxane
    Reply

    My son is 11 years old and was just diagnosed as having ODD. We battle almost every morning to get him to go to school. Is there any resources and or schools you can recommend out here in West Covina, Ca?
    Please Help!

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi Roxane, Just sent you an e-mail.

  • Jennifer
    Reply

    I live in St. Louis, MO is do you have an info for places around here?

  • Mandy
    Reply

    I have a 17 year old step daughter that will be a senior this year. She was diagnosed when she was little with ODD. This is all very new to me and I am just looking for resources to read to find ways to cope with this myself. Please help.

  • Nora
    Reply

    Please help ! We have a 6 year old who may have ODD. It sounds like she may have it based on all the research we have done. We don’t have health insurance to see her doc at the moment and just kinda searching on my own ! Please help ! We live in Phoenix AZ

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Hi, you can fill out the form at the bottom of this post to receive additional resources.

  • Theresa
    Reply

    There is hope! My 6 yr old adopted daughter (thru foster care in Maine ). Is having major issues with violence, anger, impulsive etc. she’s sped, ADHD, odd and anxiety. Resources for florida? Just north of Daytona beach.

  • Arthur Britton
    Reply

    Hello my name is Arthur and my son has ADHD and ODD and as so many here we are at our wits end with my son. We live in Monument CO and looking fo help anywhere in the Denver area. Thanks and God bless

  • Becky McCoy
    Reply

    Hi my name is Becky I live in Denton, Tx. My grandson was diagnosed with ADHD and ODD this past summer. He will be 7 soon. He is causing total disruption at school and has everything that goes along with disorder. I have been using the “Love and Logic method since July. It works well at home but as soon as we leave home and go someplace else ODD starts and very hard if not impossible to get control of his behavior. His parents have abandoned him or are incapable of taking care of him. I need HELP!! for this little boy. Hoping you can help.

    • Andrew Thomas
      Reply

      Hi, Becky. You can use the form at the bottom of the story on this page to receive the current list of resources. Take care and hang in there!

  • Holly
    Reply

    Any help around keysville Virginia my son was diagnosed at age two he is now seven.

  • Babita
    Reply

    Looking for resources in Houston, TX for my nine year old with Adhd and odd.

    • Mary Beth Thomas
      Reply

      Thank you so much for visiting the website and reaching out–the form on this page will send you an email with any local resources of which we are aware. Hope this helps!

  • Emily
    Reply

    We have adopted an 8 yo girl in central MS with ADHD, ODD, & SPD. As I read in this story, we have good days and bad days. Lately, the bad days are far outweighing the good ones. Our whole family (2 older children) is suffering. Help would be GREAT!

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